Thursday, February 22, 2018

You Did It

You are where you are because of decisions/choices you've made.

Some people find that statement exhilarating and exciting.

Some people find that statement deflating and depressing.

Either way....own it.  Feel it.  

Now, understand that if you're not happy with an area of your life, YOU can decide to change it.



Here's how that works:

Think about that area of your life where you're dissatisfied.  
Maybe it's your body, your job, your relationship, your finances.

  • Focus on what you want to see change
  • What would it mean to you, to see that change?
  • How will you feel once you've achieved it?
  • What will it take to move towards that?
  • What can you do RIGHT NOW to move that direction?
Now....go do it.

Example:  Mary wanted to lose 50 pounds.  She wasn't happy with her body, how she looked or how she felt.  Instead of dwelling on that, she focused on what it would mean to her to achieve that goal and how she would feel more confident, would be able to be more active with her family and have less aches and pains.  She knew some of her food choices were keeping her where she was.  She cut out certain foods and snacks that weren't aligned with her goal.  She started with small steps like walking more and bought a set of 2# hand weights.

Mary made a decision to move towards the change she sought.
Mary made a commitment to herself and her goals.
Mary took action.

And, Mary got results.

Mary could be you.  It could be career changes, financial changes, relationship changes.  It could be anything.

The point...YOU have power to change your life.  YOU have power because you get to choose.

Decide to change.
Focus on the goal.
Feel how it would mean to achieve it.
Take Action.


PS:  If you need help with this process, I am opening up a coaching class in March 2018 and would love to work with you to achieve your goal.  Pop on over to Facebook for more information by clicking HERE.

Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Empowering Women

I am all for empowering women. However, I’m not going to fit society’s labels.

I like comfy.

I wear t-shirts, sweats, flip flops.

My hair is usually up in some messy bun and often, is a variety of colors.

I rarely wear make-up. When I do it’s just hints of colors to bring out the natural colors in my eyes.

I have freckles, scars and tattoos. Every single “imperfection” is a reflection of the life I’ve lead and the choices I’ve made.

I don’t have pretty, long nails. I love to paint them, but often the color chips off and I’ve got dirt under my nails.

I haven’t worn high heels in a decade. But, I LOVE my knee-high suede (flat) boots.

I believe I have every right to be successful, but I define what success is. 

I believe I have every right to be rich, but I define what rich is.

I have no issue with cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry or driving the kids around to friends or places. Because it needs to be done, not because it’s a “woman’s job”

I have no issue with letting my man hold the door open, change a light bulb or drive when we go somewhere. Not because it’s a man’s job, but because honestly, it’s nice to let someone else do those things.

I have no problem being the “weaker” sex because honestly, sometimes I can’t carry some shit on my own and my hands are not large enough or wide enough to open the damn pickle jar.

I also have no problem doing some things that, according to society, my man should do like take out the trash, check the oil in my car or change a flat tire. I’m available. I’m capable. So why the hell wouldn't I do it? If I didn’t have a man in my life, wouldn’t I have to know these things OR know where to go to get these things done?

Sometimes, I think we as a people get so caught up in a cause, a statement, a mission and we say we don’t want to be stereotyped, but in reality we’ve just changed the type of group we’re classified in.

When I was in the dating world, after my divorce, I was often told I was different. Most men were excited about that, but then flaked off because they were intimidated or lacked the confidence to date a woman like me.

The thing is...I don’t need a man. Not because I’m all girl-power and stuff.

But because as a human being that has had to learn to make it on their own, I can do what needs to be done. If it’s something I can’t do, then I find someone with the skill to do it.

I learned and accepted my limitations.
I drew strengths from my accomplishments.
I expanded my circle of influence.
I invested in myself; personal development, skill sets and communication skills.

Once I realized what I needed, what I didn’t, the funniest most wonderful things happened.

The right man for me was suddenly in my inbox.

People tell me I’m lucky.

I’m not lucky. The definition of luck: success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one's own actions.

No. My actions brought this man into my life. Because until I was able to stand on my own two feet, use the brain cells between my ears and believe that I was good enough...all I found was insecure, un-confident, wishy-washy men and even some of my friends.

I am blessed.
I am fortunate.
I am strong.
I am confident.
And yes, I am woman.

And my message to society (if I bothered to acknowledge them at all): Don’t bother trying to fit me in to one of your “classifications”.

That’s like trying to fit a star-shape into a circle hole.

Not. Happening.

There is someone who read this and it hit home.

Either you are trying to figure it all out, or have & were afraid you were the only one.

I’m looking for my tribe.

People that are like me, but are also uniquely themselves.

People looking for a place where they can shine brightly, and don’t give a f-k if they fit the “norm”.

To me...that is how you EMPOWER WOMEN. 

Give them the freedom to be themselves, and the support they need when society tries to mess with them.

Cause, honestly, we ALL need support.

You can do this on your own, but no need to do it alone.

I’m here.
I’m waiting for you.
I've got you.


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Tuesday, September 26, 2017

What Are Your Goals?

What Are Your Goals?

Setting Goals

Sometimes, I like to sit down with a pen and some paper and just brainstorm.  What goals I have, where I've been spending my time, what I've accomplished, and so on.

What is interesting is that some of the goals have been achieved...when I've been super specific about them and taken ACTION steps to achieve them.  Others, went on the "wish" list and not so surprisingly, weren't accomplished.

So, once I decided to become a Life Coach professionally, not just doing it here and there for friends and family as they needed my help, I really had to get the goals nailed down.

I once heard a phrase from Dani Johnson that I will NEVER forget:

"If it isn't specific, it isn't dynamic!"

I'm not entirely sure if she's the originator of the phrase, but she is the one person I heard it from first, so I'll give credit where I believe it to be due.

Regardless, it wasn't until I got specific about my career choice, that I could become specific about my career path.  And once that became specific...the other details were easier to specify as well.
In this case, those details and goals were:  Who to coach.  When to coach.  Where to coach.  How to coach.  What outcomes to achieve.

So, my question for you right now is:

What goals do YOU have that you are ready to get SPECIFIC about so you can achieve DYNAMIC outcomes and create a life you love?

Leave me a comment or send me an email.  Would love to hear from you.  If you would like help with these goals once you've started thinking about them, I do have time slots available so just get in touch with me and we'll get started.

Loving Life; Hope You Are Too!


PS:  Do yourself a HUGE favor....set deadlines for your goals.  Running a marathon with no winner's tape at the end is a frustrating journey.  ;-)