Tuesday, December 29, 2015

If You Fail to Plan, You Are Planning To Fail

If You Fail to Plan, You Are Planning To Fail


Ironically, I planned to write about this topic today and I saw this phrase in more than one place, by different people.

My original title for this blog post was "You can't afford NOT to afford it."

How is that the same, you ask?

First let me explain how I interpret the fail/plan title:

If you don't make goals for yourself and you don't look to the future and make plans, you will fail.  You don't have to be a crazy, organized maniac about planning, but you do have to consider that most of life does NOT happen by accident.  You don't graduate high school by "winging it".  You don't find a job without some thought and effort.  There is a thought process to all of these things.  There is usually a plan, or system, in place and you follow the plan.  

Now, go beyond the "norm" and consider having a lucrative paying career, a cushioned bank account and a happy family.  That takes planning my friend.  Even if not scripted out on paper, there is still a plan and a process to achieve what you want.  I believe there is a saying that goes around that the most successful people in history wrote their goals down (created a plan).

Moving on...when I said you can't afford to NOT afford it, I was referring to putting a plan into action.  Creating goals for the new year, planning out action steps and then implementing them.  If you don't work on that, you will continue to play small, have unfulfilled dreams and lead a life that craves more.



So, what are you going to do now?  Are you going to get your sh*t together and take action?  If it means spending money or time or sacrificing...don't tell me you can't afford it.  You can't afford NOT to do it.  If you don't do something now, where will you be in a year from now?  Saying the same f*ing thing you've been saying.

Don't live by the "I will do X when everything is right."  

Live AS IF things are ideal and you want to achieve MORE.  
Go to work and give it your all AS IF the boss is watching & waiting to give you a raise.  
Spend time with your family AS IF there's no more time left.  
Invest in yourself AS IF you're already on your way to your goals.  
Walk and talk and think AS IF love, prosperity and abundance are already yours.

I heard this from Dani Johnson once (not sure who originally said it):

Definition of insanity is...doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Don't be insane my friend.  Take a stand right now, for your future, your family, your hopes and dreams.  Make a move, NOW.

See you on the other side!

~Joy~

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Sunday, December 27, 2015

What Was Your Greatest Challenge of the Year?

What Was Your Greatest Challenge of the Year?


I posted this question on my Facebook wall.  I directed it at women, since that is who I typically work with, and the audience I relate the most to.

Surprisingly, I didn't get a huge response.  I'm not sure if it's because people didn't see my post (you may know how FB can be about that kind of thing) or if people just don't want to answer the question.  But, I'm an open book, so I will share mine.

My greatest challenge of the year was losing everything I worked hard to achieve.  In fact, that was the same challenge of 2014.  This year, however, was very painful because I had worked beyond the challenges of 2014 to achieve many things in 2015, only to have them taken away from me.  

But, as always, I am going to FLIP that around.  What have I learned?  What will I do differently?  How will I improve myself and my situation as the year closes out, so that in 2016 I can achieve MORE than ever before?

I've learned to be more careful with my finances.  I've learned that building up your credit is hard work and also requires some forward thinking to avoid falling back down the slippery credit slope.  I've learned that I am MORE than who I've been and can achieve even more by working with others; sharing my story and helping them to see that they too are MORE than who they've been.

Sometimes, when you hit rock bottom, what you discover is perspective.  You realize that all you've been through can make you stronger and you can bounce back, wiser and prepared.  

Even though I had a difficult year in 2015, there are many blessings.  I am healthy.  My children are healthy.  I have a wonderful support system.  I have a full-time job that I enjoy.  I have a partner that loves and supports me no matter what I am dealing with.  I have a strong desire to create my dream life and a commitment to do whatever it takes to do so.  I have a passion to help others.  I have the ability, and the knowledge, to turn things around starting right now.  I am blessed, truly.

I say all that to say this:  I'm really NO different than you.  You have dreams, goals, talents, abilities and gifts.  The only difference is...are you committed to change your life?  Are you passionate about it?  Do you desire to be, do and have MORE?

I am building something BIG in 2016 and beyond.  A tribe of women that are ready to BE, DO and HAVE MORE.  I invite you to hang around a bit and see if what I have to offer is something you want.  I know there are women out there seeking what I have to give.  The only question now is, are you ready to change your life?  Are you ready to transform yourself, your finances, you relationships, your physicality...your future?

I look forward to working with you!

~Joy

Saturday, December 26, 2015

Who Do You Want To Be? What Do You Want To Do?

Who Do You Want To Be? What Do You Want To Do?



When I was a little girl, I wanted to be either an archaeologist or a psychologist.  I wanted to travel the world and I wanted to help people.  Even though I didn't pursue either career, what interested me then, still interests me now.

What about you?  What did you want to be and do, when you were a child?  How is that different than what you do now?  How is it the same?  Do you feel fulfilled in your life choices?

Even though I haven't yet traveled the world, I still look forward to it.  The most recent career choice led me to working with animals instead of people.  However, my desire and my passion is to work with women.  Women that have dealt with challenges and are trying to transform their lives into one that fulfills them.

One thing I want to challenge you with is this:

Once a day, take 5 minutes and list all of the things that make you happy and those things that you are grateful for.  You don't have to share it with anyone else.  Just write it down (or type it out) and review it.  Review the list 2 more times throughout the day.  Do it consistently for 1 week and then come back and leave a comment about what, if any, revelations or changes you experienced.


I look forward to hearing your feedback!

Joy

Friday, December 25, 2015

Merry Christmas! My Gift To You...

Merry Christmas!  My Gift To You...


As a Life Coach, it is my job and my responsibility to help others achieve their goals.  Every Life Coach has their own style and most have their own "specialty" of practice.  The goal of a coach is to help people that show up, to do what they need to do in order to achieve the intended goal; that applies to a Life Coach as much as it applies to a football or baseball coach.

I want to wish you Happy Holidays.  Whatever you celebrate, I hope that you are blessed and safely enjoy everything.  As I have mentioned in other blog posts, the end of year is coming and this is the time that people begin their resolutions.  For those who would like help, I am here.

My gift(s) to you:

For the bootcamp, simply click HERE and sign up for the email series.

For the Transformation Clarity Call, you can schedule that call HERE

For the book, send an email to TransformationCoachJoy@gmail.com and I will send the PDF out to you the same day.

My goal is to help 100 women achieve their goals and design a life they love in 2016.  I would LOVE to have YOU as one of the women I work with.

Merry Christmas!!

Joy

Sunday, December 20, 2015

It's Not About Resolutions, It's About INTENTIONS

It's Not About Resolutions, It's About INTENTIONS



Welcome to the end of 2015!  There is less than two weeks to the new year and it's about that time when people start to look at what they want to improve.

It's great to make a list of goals.  I do it every few months, not just for the new year.  After all, at any point, you can turn your life around.  And, often I will go back to that list and revise it, based on any progress I have made, obstacles I've hit or life changes that have altered my path.

One thing I've noticed is that I am really good at making lists.  I mean, I can make lists for anything.  But, unless I have clear intentions, those lists are useless.

See, it's not about the resolutions....it's about your INTENTIONS.  Saying "I want to lose weight" doesn't mean as much as "I am going to lose 5 pounds this month."  What is the difference in these two sentences?  One is just a vague goal and the other is a specific intention.

The definition of "intention" is:  a thing intended; an aim or plan.  So, you are still setting goals, but with the intention of achieving them.  Does that make sense?  Along with intention, comes commitment and implementation.

So, when you list your resolutions for 2016, be sure to make it a list of intentions.  A list that you can commit to and implement the action needed to achieve your goals.

For those who need help with this process, I am opening for coaching in 2016.  I will have one-to-one coaching and group sessions available.  Simply sign up for our coaching newsletter to be kept in the loop on coaching availability HERE

Monday, December 14, 2015

What Are Your Resolutions For The New Year?

What Are Your Resolutions For The New Year?



We're just a couple weeks away from the New Year.  This is the time that people start to declare their resolutions.  I personally have never been big on doing that.  I mean, if I want to set a goal, I just do it when it comes to mind.  But, I know that not everyone does it that way.

So, how about you?  What are your goals and resolutions for the New Year?  Is it to lose weight?  Get out of debt?  Go on a vacation?  Move to a new home?  Make more money?  Retire?

All of these, plus many I haven't mentioned, are phenomenal resolutions.  The key to achieving these goals is to have a plan of action in place.  A plan that is realistic, with smaller, attainable goals along the way.  There should be rewards for progress and consequences for lapses.  If possible, a support system should be in place, as well.  Honestly, you didn't get to this point overnight, and you can't expect to get desired results overnight either.

Here's a few examples, just to give you some ideas to work with:

If your resolution is to lose 30 pounds in the New Year, then break it down to monthly and weekly goals.  Map out your daily caloric intake and exercise regime.  Your rewards may be a new piece of clothing or extra snack.  The consequences of a relapse may be 5 extra minutes daily, on that dreaded treadmill.  ;)  

If your resolution is to get out of debt in the New Year, then you're going to need to figure out how much you owe and how much you earn.  Map out a monthly budget for yourself.  Plan out your payments to your creditors.  Cut any excess spending and apply that money to debt.  The rewards may be a purchase that you've wanted for awhile...but pay CASH, don't use the credit cards!  The consequences may be cutting out on expenses such as buying coffee out, eating out or even a monthly subscription to a magazine, movie or cell app that you enjoy.  

Whatever your resolution, you should have a support system in place.  Someone to help you be accountable for your goals.  Someone that can help you celebrate success and help you with your consequences as well.  There is plenty of online support, no matter what your goals are.  However, some people see faster, better results with one-on-one support.  That's where a Transformation Life Coach comes in.

What I love most about being a Transformation Life Coach is seeing RESULTS.  Nothing is better than working one-on-one with someone and helping them achieve their goals.  YOU design the life you want.  YOU create a life you love.  I just coach you along the way and give support as you need it.  Yes, sometimes I have to be the "bad guy" but that's because doing it on our own doesn't work for everyone.  :)

If you are looking for some help in the New Year, someone to help you reach your goals, reach out and let me know ASAP.  We can start working on your resolutions and goals at any time.  Whenever you are ready, THAT is the perfect time.  It doesn't have to be January 1st!

To Your Success!!

Joy 

 

Thursday, December 10, 2015

What's Your Daily Mantra? How Do You Build Yourself Up?

What's Your Daily Mantra? 

How Do You Build Yourself Up?



What do you tell yourself every single day to inspire you to keep going; keep moving beyond the 
obstacles and challenges you may come against?

I have a strip of paper in my car, that I typed three sentences on.  I spend a lot of time in my 
car every day, so I see these sentences often.  Sometimes when I see them I ask myself, "Really?  
Is that what I did today?"  Other times, like first thing in the morning, it is a reminder of what 
my goals are for the day.

I typed up the sentences at a time when life felt like it was going down a hard road, and I let my stubbornness come out.  I wasn't going to let the fact that I was siuddenly homeless, for example, bring me down.  A short time later, my car was repossessed.  I was rocked to the core!  The only resource I had was gone and I didn't have enough money to get it back.  It was more than just my car...it was my way to work, my only way to see my kids or get to the place I'd been staying.  And, 
it was my haven....where I could just sit and chill out when I needed some time, listen to music or take a nap.

One thing that I have said over and over again since separating from my husband in 2014 and dealing with all of the challenges there was this:  I am doing this on my own, but not alone!  And it's true.  With the help of some amazing, supportive friends, I was able to get my car back.  The very first thing I looked at once I got back in the driver's seat, was those three little sentences.

Here are those three little sentences:

I am crafting my ideal life.
I am creating my legacy.
I am singing my song.


Since then, I've been working hard to change everything around.  I have a job that I love.  I spend time with the people I love and have recently decided to re-launch my coaching practice.  I am a work in progress, as are you.  We all are.

I am no superwoman.  People say that I am strong.  Maybe I am.  Or, maybe I am just not willing to let anyone else or anything else determine my future.  I am stubborn, yes I am!

So, back to YOU.  What is YOUR mantra?  What is it that keeps you going even when the going gets tough?  What is it that helps you the most when you feel like life is going in a direction you don't want to go?

I would absolutely LOVE to hear from you.  Just post a comment below.  And, I'd also love it if you 
hit the "Share" button below and put this post out there if you know anyone that needs a little 
encouragement today.

Joy

Tuesday, December 8, 2015

What Would You Do If Suddenly Your Whole Life Changed?

What Would You Do If Suddenly Your Whole Life Changed?


I've spent the past three days sitting bedside, in the hospital.  Luckily, I had already planned a vacation day on Monday, and was off as usual on Sunday and Monday.  I had a lot of time to think.  A LOT.

The path that your life is on can drastically change in a moment.  It can be bad, like someone you care about (or yourself) being hospitalized.  It can be something good, like you won the lottery or got promoted to your dream or had a baby.

Whatever it is...are you ready?  Can you handle a big change in your life?

Live every day with intention and purpose.  Don't just be a bystander in your life while events go on around you.  And, be willing to switch gears when a drastic change comes your way.  

If you have a drastic change, it's a good idea to surround yourself with supportive people.  People that understand what you're dealing with (good or bad) and have your best interests at heart.  When you're in the midst of change it can be hard to focus; hard to know what to do next.  It helps to have someone that is outside of the situation to give you guidance.

Thankfully, the three days I spent bedside went alright and everything is going to be okay.  But, as I said, it got me to thinking and I wanted to share that with you.

Thank you for being here.  It means a lot to have you stop by and read my posts.

Be well,

Joy  

Friday, December 4, 2015

Why Do Women Fail to Succeed in Life?

Why Do Women Fail to Succeed in Life?



We can blame it on our parents, our partners, our friends,  We can try to say that there are outside forces causing us to fail to succeed, but that's a lie.

Yes, a LIE.


The reason we fail to succeed is true for men and women, to be honest.  Even though many fears seem to be something only women deal with, at the root of the matter, it's not really gender specific.  Only in the way it manifests does it seem to be gender specific.

Either way: It's not our family.  It's not our friends.  It's not our co-workers.  It's not our boss.

It is FEAR.

Fear of failure.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of failure.
Fear of not being good enough.
Fear of...
...you get the picture.

How do we overcome our fears?

Face them.  Identify them.  Find a way to send them to the pit of hell.  Seriously.


Fear has NO place in success.

Yes, we all have fears.  But, NO we don't all let them control us.  THAT is where things get serious. 

 Facing your fears is not something you can switch on and off.  It takes time, and work, and consistency.  Like anything in life, you need to keep working at it to see the results you want.

So, the first step is to IDENTIFY the fear.

For example, I've always had a fear of rejection.

The answer is not to just "not care" anymore.  That actually doesn't work because deep down you DO care.

In order to beat the fear of rejection...and this is a small step process...is to build up belief in yourself.  If you believe in yourself, you'll be less likely to fear rejection.  If it's something you have dealt with all your life, please....please don't think you can fix it overnight.  It is a daily process.  The fear lessens over time.

Every day, focus on ways to accept yourself.  Appreciate yourself.  Love yourself.  When you do that, you re-program your mind to accept that which you appreciate; leaving less room for the fear.

Try it for yourself.  Pinpoint one fear that you have and think about what the opposite feeling is.  Think about how you can build up the positive feeling that will stomp out the fear.  And, if you have multiple fears, just work on one at a time.  They are going to be intertwined, and as you work on one, others will become lessened.

Life Transformation is a PROCESS.  As your coach, I can help you through that process.  

Looking forward to YOUR success,


Joy

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

How To Change That "What If" Into Something Productive

How To Change That "What If" Into Something Productive



"The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving."
Oliver Wendell Holmes



Have you ever wondered, "What if?"  Of course you have; we all do.  We sit and wonder how things would be different "if only..." and too many of us don't consider that as a motivation to make change.

I prefer to live "AS IF..."  As if you're income is climbing higher.  As if your relationship is becoming healthy.  As if your kids try to always get along.  As if your bills are going to be paid in full.

Some say that it is delusional to think like that.  I'm not saying ignore your responsibilities and pretend life is peachy.  My suggestion is to look at your life differently.  Maybe when you get up in the morning instead of focusing on how you hate the commute or the 10 hour day at work, you switch it up a bit.  Use your commute as if it is a learning time; put on some audio courses to teach you something new.  Use your time at work as if it is a way to master your communication skills.   Use the arguments your children have as if they are trying to tell you what's bothering them or how they feel about certain things in their life; create a conversation from it.

Hopefully you see where this is going.  Any situation can be seen as negative or positive; it all depends on your perspective.

However, those of you that read all that and considered it "fluff" or "nonsense" may not be positioned right now to open their minds to a new perspective.  That's okay.  I understand.  Those that see the potential are welcome to come back to this blog as often as they'd like.  For only those people are ready to make change; foster growth in their life.

It all begins with YOU.  You are the only one that truly determines the journey.  You can park right where you are at, or navigate forward.  And at every stop light along the way, take a moment to consider what direction you want to go in.  It is all up to YOU.


To Your Success!

Joy