Set The Tone For Your Day

When you wake up in the morning, DECIDE that you're going to have a great day.

Any decision that you make, when you first get up, is what you've told your brain to find evidence of.  

Guess what, if you just make the declaration that you are going to have a great day, and do that EVERY day, you will start to see your whole life shift.

There's a saying:  "Win the morning and you win the day."

People will say, "oh that's BS." or "that's positive thinking crap."

But I say:  Maybe...but how is the negative BS working for you right now?

Every morning you wake up, it's New Year's Day!  It's the first day of a new year, 365 days, where you can change your life to accomplish what you want.

Every morning you wake up, you have the potential to accomplish what you want.  It's like having a clean slate.  Every. Damn. Day.

But YOU have to DECIDE what you will do.

You may be reading this in the middle of the day, or before bed.  I don't care, start NOW.  Change the course that you are on if you are not happy with where you're going.

Would you stay on a bus or train that was taking you in the wrong direction?  
No.  Next stop, you're hopping off.  
And even if another train or bus isn't coming, you're going to start walking, take a cab, call a friend to pick you up.  
You're NOT going to stay where you don't desire to be.

Do that with your life.  "Hop off" at the next chance you get and move in the direction you desire to go.  The sooner you do it, the sooner you can get on the RIGHT PATH FOR YOU.

Plug into people and resources that will build you up and guide you, motivate and empower you.

Every morning, when I get up, I grab my coffee and my notebook.  I plug into morning motivation videos on YouTube and journal what I am grateful for, what I will do today and what goals I will achieve.

Nothing Becomes Dynamic Until It Becomes Specific.  I learned that from Dani Johnson many years ago.

Remember, the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.  

Take a stand for you.  Take a stand for your life.  Take a stand for all that is important to you.

This is your day!

~Joy~

Are You On Target?

We're almost 2 full months into 2018.  How are you doing?

Have you met the goals you set for the New Year?
Are you on target to achieve them?

So many of us strive to make resolutions or goals for the New Year.  Then, LIFE HAPPENS.  Those that achieve their goals don't wait for the New Year to set in motion the events that will get them where they want to go.

Guess what?  No matter where you are right now, as long as you DECIDE that you want to get to somewhere better (whatever that is for you), you have taken the first step to achieve what you desire.

But, what is lacking for most is ACTION.  See, making a decision means you are willing to strive towards what you want.  But, a decision without ACTION, just turns into a dream; a hope that you may get to where you want to be.

It's not magic.

It takes ACTION.

So, you've still got 10 months to hit your goals for 2018.  How can you get there?

Look at the desired goal.  Then, create a plan, working backwards.  Go all the way back to today.  What can you do TODAY to get to your goals?

Don't fear change.
Don't fear failure.
Don't fear pain.
Don't fear success.
Don't fear rejection.
Don't fear other's opinions.

• Change is necessary.  If you continue doing what you're doing, you'll continue getting what you're getting.
• Failure is a part of learning.  When something doesn't work, learn, and try again.
• Pain is what will help heal you.  You grow through the pain and come out stronger.
• Success is whatever YOU define it to be.  And, being successful will change your life.  And, as I said....Change is necessary.
• Rejection is not always personal.  It's often the rejection of thoughts, ideas, situations, that the other person doesn't know how to accept.  Why?  Because they have FEAR.
• Other people's opinions do not serve you nearly as much as YOUR opinion of YOURSELF.  Sometimes, opinions can give you insight, perspective, encouragement.  However, they are not as important as what you believe about yourself.

You were not put on this earth to survive, you were put here to THRIVE.  The goals that you had in the beginning of the year, if important enough, will be achieved by the end of this year IF...

IF...
you take action, 
you have a plan, 
you are open to change,
you fail forward, 
you grow through the pain,
you define and embrace success,
you don't take rejection personally,
you value your opinion of yourself 

Remember, the most important relationship you will EVER have in your life is the one you have with YOURSELF.  So, work on YOU and as you do, your mind will shift, and the world will shift with you.

Believe in YOU. That's where it all begins.

I believe in you.

~Joy~

You Did It

You are where you are because of decisions/choices you've made.

Some people find that statement exhilarating and exciting.

Some people find that statement deflating and depressing.

Either way....own it.  Feel it.  

Now, understand that if you're not happy with an area of your life, YOU can decide to change it.

Yep.  

YOU.

Here's how that works:

Think about that area of your life where you're dissatisfied.  
Maybe it's your body, your job, your relationship, your finances.

• Focus on what you want to see change
• What would it mean to you, to see that change?
• How will you feel once you've achieved it?
• What will it take to move towards that?
• What can you do RIGHT NOW to move that direction?

Now....go do it.

Example:  Mary wanted to lose 50 pounds.  She wasn't happy with her body, how she looked or how she felt.  Instead of dwelling on that, she focused on what it would mean to her to achieve that goal and how she would feel more confident, would be able to be more active with her family and have less aches and pains.  She knew some of her food choices were keeping her where she was.  She cut out certain foods and snacks that weren't aligned with her goal.  She started with small steps like walking more and bought a set of 2# hand weights.

Mary made a decision to move towards the change she sought.
Mary made a commitment to herself and her goals.
Mary took action.

And, Mary got results.

Mary could be you.  It could be career changes, financial changes, relationship changes.  It could be anything.

The point...YOU have power to change your life.  YOU have power because you get to choose.

Decide to change.
Focus on the goal.
Feel how it would mean to achieve it.
Take Action.
NOW.

~Joy~

PS:  If you need help with this process, I am opening up a coaching class in March 2018 and would love to work with you to achieve your goal.  Pop on over to Facebook for more information by clicking HERE.

Empowering Women

I am all for empowering women. However, I’m not going to fit society’s labels.

I like comfy.

I wear t-shirts, sweats, flip flops.

My hair is usually up in some messy bun and often, is a variety of colors.

I rarely wear make-up. When I do it’s just hints of colors to bring out the natural colors in my eyes.

I have freckles, scars and tattoos. Every single “imperfection” is a reflection of the life I’ve lead and the choices I’ve made.

I don’t have pretty, long nails. I love to paint them, but often the color chips off and I’ve got dirt under my nails.

I haven’t worn high heels in a decade. But, I LOVE my knee-high suede (flat) boots.

I believe I have every right to be successful, but I define what success is. 

I believe I have every right to be rich, but I define what rich is.

I have no issue with cleaning, cooking, doing the laundry or driving the kids around to friends or places. Because it needs to be done, not because it’s a “woman’s job”

I have no issue with letting my man hold the door open, change a light bulb or drive when we go somewhere. Not because it’s a man’s job, but because honestly, it’s nice to let someone else do those things.

I have no problem being the “weaker” sex because honestly, sometimes I can’t carry some shit on my own and my hands are not large enough or wide enough to open the damn pickle jar.

I also have no problem doing some things that, according to society, my man should do like take out the trash, check the oil in my car or change a flat tire. I’m available. I’m capable. So why the hell wouldn't I do it? If I didn’t have a man in my life, wouldn’t I have to know these things OR know where to go to get these things done?


Sometimes, I think we as a people get so caught up in a cause, a statement, a mission and we say we don’t want to be stereotyped, but in reality we’ve just changed the type of group we’re classified in.

When I was in the dating world, after my divorce, I was often told I was different. Most men were excited about that, but then flaked off because they were intimidated or lacked the confidence to date a woman like me.

The thing is...I don’t need a man. Not because I’m all girl-power and stuff.

But because as a human being that has had to learn to make it on their own, I can do what needs to be done. If it’s something I can’t do, then I find someone with the skill to do it.

I learned and accepted my limitations.
I drew strengths from my accomplishments.
I expanded my circle of influence.
I invested in myself; personal development, skill sets and communication skills.

Once I realized what I needed, what I didn’t, the funniest most wonderful things happened.

The right man for me was suddenly in my inbox.

People tell me I’m lucky.

I’m not lucky. The definition of luck: success or failure apparently brought by chance rather than through one's own actions.

No. My actions brought this man into my life. Because until I was able to stand on my own two feet, use the brain cells between my ears and believe that I was good enough...all I found was insecure, un-confident, wishy-washy men and even some of my friends.

I am blessed.
I am fortunate.
I am strong.
I am confident.
And yes, I am woman.

And my message to society (if I bothered to acknowledge them at all): Don’t bother trying to fit me in to one of your “classifications”.

That’s like trying to fit a star-shape into a circle hole.

Not. Happening.

There is someone who read this and it hit home.

Either you are trying to figure it all out, or have & were afraid you were the only one.

I’m looking for my tribe.

People that are like me, but are also uniquely themselves.

People looking for a place where they can shine brightly, and don’t give a f-k if they fit the “norm”.

To me...that is how you EMPOWER WOMEN. 

Give them the freedom to be themselves, and the support they need when society tries to mess with them.

Cause, honestly, we ALL need support.

You can do this on your own, but no need to do it alone.

I’m here.
I’m waiting for you.
I've got you.

Love,
Joy

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