Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Coaching, Advice and Helpful Suggestions Just a Call Away!

Coaching, Advice and Helpful Suggestions Just a Call Away!

What if you could pick up the phone and talk to someone about what you're dealing with...right NOW and without breaking the bank?

You don't have to leave your home or office to get coaching or advice.

You don't have to try to fit a session into your already busy schedule.

You can get some helpful advice from someone who actually listens to you.

You speak with someone who is neutral; they aren't taking sides.

Now, remember, this is COACHING.  Coaching is NOT therapy or counseling.

As stated on LifeCoaching.com website:

"Life Coaching is a profession that is profoundly different from consulting, mentoring, advice, therapy, or counseling. The coaching process addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client's personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be."

Many life coaches offer affordable breakthrough sessions or discovery sessions.  I've offered them too.  It is a great way to start the coaching process.  I highly encourage it.

However, sometimes, you just need a little something, for right NOW.  You already have an idea of what you want to talk about and you may not want or need to get locked in to a contract or payment plan.  

So, what I offer is On Call Coaching.  You call the number, tell me what you are dealing with and what you are trying to achieve.  We talk it out and then you hang up, hopefully satisfied!!

Now, I also take callers that ask for general advice or recommended resources on something.

There's no sales pitch or anything to buy on these calls.  These calls are about YOU and what you need.  


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Monday, June 20, 2016

Becoming Confident in Who You Are

Becoming Confident in Who You Are

One of the things I am constantly working on, and help others to work on, is having CONFIDENCE in one's self.  It's not easy when the world seems hell bent on crushing you every chance it gets.

The thing is...confidence comes from within.  It can be boosted by outside sources, but the only person that can truly give you confidence, is YOU.

Even if the boss says you've done a good job.
Even if your friends love the hand-made gifts you make them.
Even if your customers or clients sing your praises.
Even if your kids think you are amazing.
Even if your partner or spouse supports you.

They haven't given you confidence.

They have given you encouragement, support, love...so that YOU can bring out the confidence within yourself.

Ever have a challenge you struggled with...like losing weight or earning a degree, raise or promotion...until you achieved it?

Who did it?  YOU!
How did that make you feel?  CONFIDENT!
Were you inspired to do something else, or help someone else?  YES...because you have confidence.

You earned it.


Not your boss.
Not your friends.
Not your customers or clients.
Not your kids.
Not your spouse or partner.

You have the ability to be confident, within you.  You just need to tap into it.  You may need a little help.  Just like a child learning to ride a bike.  But, once you get balanced...away you go.

Go for it!


PS:  If you need a little help, let me know.  I'd love to work with you!!

Friday, June 17, 2016

Why Wait?

Why Wait When You Know What You Want?

"I don't have the money."
"I don't have the time."
"I don't know if it's right."
"I don't know if it'll work."

Just STOP.  I've been there.  I get it.  It's FEAR.

Don't let FEAR rule you!

As a person who has to think everything out, then still makes a boat load of mistakes...I can honestly say, JUST DO IT.

The time will NEVER be right.

Waiting for the money, the time, the people, the things...all just holding you up from having what you want.  Why wait?

It's not something you can just switch on/off but you sure as hell can work on it.  Starting NOW.

Go out and DO something right now.

Your Life is an Occasion; Rise to it!


Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Trust Yourself

Trust Yourself

That small voice in your head...
That nagging feeling in your heart...
That sinking feeling in your belly...
That peaceful feeling in your soul...

Good or bad...you need to trust yourself.

There's a reason you feel what you do, think what you do.

Whether it's a relationship with a loved one...
...business venture...
...career change...

That feeling is there for a reason.  If someone tells you that you are crazy, don't let it phase you.

You may not be 100% right....

...but, you're not 100% wrong either.

I follow these feelings in the direction they urge me to go.  Then, I evaluate and take action.

Just a little thought for the day.

Your life is an occasion; RISE to it my friend.



Monday, June 6, 2016

Everyone Wants to Feel Significant

Everyone Want to Feel Significant

To feel loved
To feel needed
To feel appreciated
To feel helpful
To feel like they matter
To feel like what they do, matters

We just all have different ways of going about achieving that feeling.

Some people find it in their career.
Some people find it in their fitness efforts.
Some people find in in their wealth.
Some people find it in charity.
Some people find it in volunteering.
Some people find it in addiction(s).
Some people find it in other people.

And, over your lifetime, there is a good chance that where you find your signifigance will change or evolve.

As a child, you may have found it in your schooling or friends.
As an adult, you may find it in your career or family.

It's not always healthy, or wise, the way that we achieve that feeling of importance.  But, at the time, it fills a need.  Once you realize that there are other ways to fulfill that need, you are free to move from the unhealthy, on to something healthier.

For example, a person who struggles with drugs or alcohol, in their mind, has found a way of feeling significant.  It could be the physical feeling, the emotional release, the lack of fear or restrictions, maybe even the person they become.

Going through counseling or therapy, they will be given the opportunity to find other ways to achieve the feelings they seek, without the use of dangerous substances.  It will become a win-win situation because they will be able to better take care of themselves AND still have a way to achieve that feeling of importance.  Of course, it's not as easy as just switching gears.  Depending on the person's needs, there may be other methods that are required to help them achieve the desired result.

You need to feel significant, don't you?
I know I DO.

I share my thoughts, insights, inspiring words....to help others.  Because that is what makes me feel significant.  Needed.  

If you struggle with this concept, I'd love to hear from you.  Maybe I can give you some insight to help you.

Understand this:  YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Your life is an occasion; rise to it my friend.


Sunday, June 5, 2016

I'm Free to Be What I Want

"I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want."
~Muhammad Ali

That man was truly amazing.  There was so much wisdom and not even acknowledging his boxing career (which was phenomenal), but just on the man and the life he led, the words and actions he demonstrated...truly the GREATEST.

I want to ask you right now, what will people say about you?  Are you living a life that serves others?  Are you sharing your gifts?  Your talents?  Are you telling the truth, without worrying about what people will say?  

Too many of us just skate through our lives hoping to not rock the boat, not cause a problem, not disappoint anyone.

Let me ask you a question:  What do you think Ali's life would have looked like if he'd just did as he was told, never spoke out, never questioned anyone, never took strides to be exactly who he knew he was meant to be?

You may not be the greatest athlete of all the time.

BUT...will you strive to become the greatest YOU?

That's what he did.  

Think about it my friend.

Then...go DO something about it.  DO something that you know damn well you should be doing.  Become the person you know you are supposed to be.

Can't wait to read your comments!  Share them below.

Your Life is an Occasion; Rise to it my friend.


PS:  I'd love to have you join our little Facebook group.  Just click HERE and request to Join.  Then, post your comments to today's blog post there.  :)

Saturday, June 4, 2016

Am I A Crazy B*tch?

Am I A Crazy B*tch?

If stupid is as stupid does, then...

Crazy is as crazy thinks.

What?  What did she just say?

I have to chuckle because this is so NOT where I was going to go with my post, until I started typing the title.

But, it's true.  See, one of the coaches/mentors I subscribe to put out a challenge to be CRAZY.  Now, this woman is a HELLCAT and she is crazy.  In her own way.  And, at the same time, she's completely sane.

It's all in your thinking my friend.

Because she's not "crazy" and neither am I.  I doubt you are either.  However, if you go sky diving for the first time, some one is bound to think you are one out of your bloody mind.  No?  But, for you, it's not crazy.  Unless you forgot the parachute.  LOL  No, for you it's daring.  For you it's about checking one thing off your bucket list.  For you, it's about spreading your wings and flying after years of being cooped up.

For me...it's not sky diving.  Not today, anyway.  What is "crazy" for me today is to go 110%, all out, no holds barred, on my business.  Sharing a side of me few know.  Giving more of myself than ever before.  Taking the risk of putting my business into OVER DRIVE because I want the rewards that come along with it.

Rewards?  Yep.  Rewards.  And, I'm not just talking about the money, honey.  Although that is sure to follow.  I'm talking about reaching the women who are sad, depressed, frustrated, burnt-out, tapped out, etc.  The women who have a burning desire in them to DO more, HAVE more and BE more.

BUT...they just don't know how to get from where they are: frustrated, sad, angry, struggling and so on...to where they want to be.  Where they know in their heart of hearts, they are CALLED to be.  I'm not talking about the people who sit there and sing a woeful ballad, point fingers at others or are otherwise NOT taking control of their life.

I'm talking about the BOLD, STRONG, MOTIVATED women who are...you know this saying...SICK AND TIRED OF BEING SICK AND TIRED.

I'm calling you out MAMA!  You have had enough of playing small.  You've had enough of worrying about everyone and everything and you finally know it's YOUR TIME.

I want to talk to YOU.  I want to see if there's a spark there that can be stoked.  That you do, in fact, know already that you HAVE what it takes and all you need now is some help bringing it to the surface.

I am offering a few FREE breakthrough sessions.  For about 30 minutes, you and I will talk briefly about where you are, and more importantly talk about where you want to go.  We'll work a little bit, together on helping you put a plan together to get start IMMEDIATELY to shift the course of your life.

I'm not going to have many spots open, so send an email to:  joymarinocoaching@gmail.com

Subject: I'm a Crazy B*tch too!!  :)

If you're not sure whether or not your ready to breakthrough all the crap...ask yourself this:

Is what I'm doing now working?  Am I happy, fulfilled and living a life on purpose?

If you answered NO to either, or both questions, send me an email. NOW.  Don't forget the special message in the subject line. 

Your life is an occasion; rise to it my friend!


Thursday, June 2, 2016

The One Thing I Am Most Proud Of Is

The One Thing I Am Most Proud Of Is...

...my strength.

I don't mean how I can pick up a 50 lb dog and lift them onto a table, at my job.  I mean how I've overcome a boatload of shit...and am still here to talk about it.

Almost two years ago, however, was a different story.  I felt like I was dying on the inside.  That the person I was intended to be, was like a bird in a cage.  Pretty to look at, sometimes kind of noisy, but otherwise trapped; never allowed to spread her wings and fly.

The only sunshine in my otherwise bleak world was my children.  Spending all day, every day with them lit me up.  But, when I wasn't with them, I was miserable.  Nights when they were tucked in, or at a friend's house, I buried myself in free books on kindle, so I could escape to places that weren't real or be a part of a story that wasn't my own.

A chain of events changed so much for me.  One day, I sat on the lid of the toilet and considered the least painful way to end my life.  I could take a handful of pills and just fall asleep, never to wake again.  Any other possibility was too painful to fathom.  I couldn't inflict physical pain on myself.  At least a bottle of benadryl would be an easy descent to the beyond.

And then, the tears came.  The thought of not seeing my babies grow up, get married, have families of their own.  Of never seeing my children graduate high school or dress for prom.  I'd miss everything.  And, even though my pain would cease, if I succeeded, my children would be hurt forever.  My youngest, who was just 1 year old, would never remember me.  Especially because no one would want to talk about the woman who cowardly abandoned her children.

I couldn't do that to them.  I wouldn't do that to them.  So, I made the hardest decision of my life.  One that still causes me heartache.  I walked away from everything.  No money, no car, no job...and literally walked away.  My older kids knew it was coming, because I didn't hide shit from them.  They knew how hurt I was.  How much pain I was in.  They didn't understand, of course, but they knew I was doing something that was best for me, at the moment, so that I could be better & healthy for them, down the road.

I struggled for awhile.  But, deep inside, I knew I had the strength to continue on.  I had the fire in me to follow my passion...follow my path.  I was finally free to be myself.  A feeling I hadn't had in over 15 years.  So, I pulled my big girl panties up, fought depression once again, and got a job, got a place to live, got a car and started working on my credit. 

I went through a ton of transitions.  I saw my kids as much as possible.  I went through a divorce.  And, then, I started focusing on my future.  I needed to set big goals for myself and walk baby steps to get there.

This year, I am positioned to make a 6 figure income.  It is taking a great deal of work.  And, in that I feel stronger.  My strength isn't a physical one.  It's my strength of character.  My mental strength.  It's my commitment to myself and to my children that reminds me to keep strong and keep moving forward.

Now, I help women shift their mindset.  I encourage, empower and equip them to create a life they love.  To break through limiting beliefs.  To set goals for themselves.  To take action steps to move them forward.

In helping others, I become stronger.  In coaching other women, I fuel my purpose-driven, passion-filled life.  No, everything isn't sunshine and lollipops.  Not yet, anyway.  :)  But, everything is coming together.  Everything is moving forward.  I hit obstacles and sometimes my mindset takes a hit; my strength waivers.  But, only until I am with my kids again, and feel that fire again.  I have to be the woman I was created to be; only then can I teach my children the possibilities that are wide open for them.

So, that's my story, so far.  This new chapter is full of twists and turns, but the plot is compelling.  I'm looking forward to all that is to come; good, bad and neutral.  Every thing is a chance to learn & grow.  And, from that, I can teach others.   

Thank you for reading my story.  If you have read this far, perhaps you can relate to my story; perhaps it resonates with you on some level.  Perhaps, you need someone like me, in your life, right now.  Someone to give you hand up, some direction and help you free that beautiful caged bird (that's you hon).

I'd love to hear your comments, feedback and questions.  Just leave a comment below.  <3

Your life is an occasion; rise to it!


PS:  If you're looking for someone to help you get started on your next chapter, feel free to reach out to me.  I'd love to offer you a FREE breakthrough session.  Just you , me and 30 minutes to talk about where you are and where you want to go.  Let me help you see that you already have everything within you to succeed.  Your journey will be different than mine, but as long as you get to where you want to go, it's worth the conversation.

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Done is Better Than Perfect

Done is better than perfect.

It's been said many different ways, but the bottom line is:
Just get it done!

You won't get it perfect. Hell, you may not get it right.  But, once you get it done, you can tweak it and modify it.

What is "it"?

That blog.
That article.
That website.
That business presentation.
That letter.
That phone call.
That...(fill in the blank).

If you wait...how does what you have to offer, help anyone?  Having a great article sitting in your drafts folder doesn't help a single person.  And it definitely isn't helping you, is it?

If you have a few different things unfinished because you are waiting to get them perfect...

Pick one and get it done.
Right now.
Go do it.

Then, pick another one and...yep,
Get. It. Done.

Comment and let me know that you got it done!


Tuesday, May 31, 2016

My Ultimate Truth

The one thing that has helped me the most to get to where I am today is:

Personal development.

More specifically, MINDSET.

I believe that whatever you think about, you bring about.  That no matter what is troubling you; no matter what the obstacles are, a simple shift in mindset can make all the difference.

Here's what I believe about mindset:

If you believe in something, you commit to it and stand by it.
If you think you can or cannot do something, you are right.
If you worry about the worst case scenario, chances are that you willl receive some form of that scenario.
If you stress over bills, finances, or anything that you can control, you cause yourself to block solutions to your problem because your focus is ON the problem itself.
If you are anxious or worried about things you can NOT control, you cause yourself a feeling of hopelessness, desperation and defeat.

My ultimate truth?  I am where I am today because I believed I could be here.  Some things I don't have control over.  Those things I must release.  The things I do have control over, however, are the things that I need to focus on so that I can create solutions to the "problems" I have created for myself.

The problems that I HAVE CREATED FOR MYSELF.

Taking ownership and responsibility for where I am is half the battle.

I promised to make payments that I failed to make.
I chose to live outside my means.
I chose not to get a second job.
I chose to pay for other people's financial responsibilities and neglected my own.
I indulged in fast food, entertainment and other things that sucked up my money.
I chose to find excuses why my business wouldn't work.
I procrastinated and didn't do the work I knew I needed to do.

I chose the life I have now.

The MINDSET flip?

I CHOOSE to take action in my business.
I CHOOSE to work with my creditors.
I CHOOSE to budget my time and money better.
I CHOOSE to consult a financial professional.
I CHOOSE to indulge only when I have budgeted for it.
I CHOOSE to not pay for anyone else's bills besides my own, unless I've budgeted for them.

When you CHOOSE to do something, you own the decision.  You mentally commit to doing what you've chosen to do.

I cannot control the increase in gas prices.  I can control wasting gas by letting the car run unnecessarily

I cannot control the finance rate on a loan, or the late fees.  I can control when I pay my bills and by paying early or on time, those additional fees are a non-issue.

My ultimate truth is that no matter what is going on in life, a shift in mindset can drastically change the course I am on.

The thing is, mindset or LOA or personal development is nothing but words; a theory, unless there is ACTION.

The choice is ALWAYS yours.  You just have to choose what you can control and what you will do about it.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.


Go make some changes today!


PS:  I have a Women's Mindset group on Facebook that I would love to have you join.  That is, if you like what you see on my blog.

Monday, May 30, 2016

What It Takes to Create a Life You Love

What I believe it takes to create a life you love is decide what you want, commit to doing what it takes and be willing to seek help when you need it.

In order to create a life you love, you need to CHOOSE to do so.  You must make the choices yourself, otherwise you won’t be able to stick to the plan.  Too many of us seek answers from outside of ourselves.  We look to friends, family, co-workers, significant others, competitors, social media and so on, for a clue as to what we want.  When, in reality, you already know what you want.  Deep down, you have strong desires, big dreams, hopes, aspirations; you know what you want but maybe you fear not achieving it.

So, what do you want?  Write out every single you want, no matter how big or how small it is.  Do you want to find your soulmate, have a child, change careers, move into a new home, work less but make more money…what do YOU want?

See, I have a list of things I want.  And perhaps, just like you, I dream of living a life that is different than what I see right now.  And maybe, like you, I occasionally let obstacles get in the way and tell myself that I can’t have what I want.  

Until I take a step back and realize that I’m not happy.  I’m not fulfilled.  I’m not living my life with a purpose or passion.  Sometimes, those outside influences are kind of helpful, because they cause a reality check.  

When a friend says that they feel bad for me because of all the strife and stress I’ve been under, it makes me stop and think, “Well, if they can see it, maybe then it’s time to do something differently.”

That’s when you set a new chain of events in motion.  That is when shit needs to get real.  I’m in control of MY life; more specifically, my actions, reactions, plans, decisions, etc.  I may not be able to control the things around me, but I sure as hell can take control over the things that I do each and every day.

So, then we go to the list.  Take each thing and reflect on it a bit.  How can I make this become a reality?  What step can I take TODAY to move in that direction.  Because action leads to progress, you see.  And progress is moving forward.  For example, I will become a six-figure income earner by the end of this year (see the wording? It’s important. WILL is intentionally).  So, what action steps can I take TODAY to move me int hat direction?  Create a new program?  Connect with new clients?  Offer freebies to get my ideal clients attention?  Yep, these are all things I can do to make progress towards my goal.

Now, it’s liberating to get started but the key here is to continue forward.  Consistency is crucial.  Every single day, I need to do some work that will take me in the direction I want to go.  It’s not enough to make a choice to get started, but you have to plug away every single day.  Keep doing the actions needed to get where you want to go.  AND, make sure you adjust, each day, accordingly.  Something didn’t work yesterday, try it again today, but tweak it a little if needed.  Just keep moving forward.

I’m not great with consistency.  I admit it.  Taking vitamins, working out, blogging, etc.  BUT, I recognize it and try to do what I can to change that.  Set an alarm on my phone to do a task at a certain time every single day until it becomes habit.  Because in the long run, I WANT THE RESULTS that will come from consistent action.  I CRAVE the results.  I DESERVE the results.
Don’t YOU????

Also, seeking help when needed is a tough, but important element.  If you can’t do something, you need to reach out and find someone who IS doing it successfully AND is willing to help you.  It can be mundane things like paying bills, answering emails, picking up the dry cleaning…or as big as marketing and advertising, accounting, hiring employees or whatever, for your business.

So, I believe that it takes decision, commitment, action, consistency and seeking out help; to create a life you love.  What about you?

Your life is an occasion my friend. Rise to it!


Sunday, May 29, 2016

It's (un)Offiicial! Summer is Here!

For those of you that don't know, I live at the Jersey Shore.  And this weekend is the UN official start to summer.

That means lots of tourists and non-locals flooding our stores, our roads and our beaches.  And, as much as it can be a total hassle, as a local, I'm not complaining.  After all, it's how the businesses in the area make their living.

It's how employees get summer jobs or make better tips.

It's how we get the local government to FINALLY fix those roads or that bridge.

It's how we boost the economy in our area.

And, I'm sure the locals in other places, maybe even some of the towns that these people have come from, feel other times of the year.

So, before you get impatient with the long lines, the crazy drivers and the jacked up gas prices....take a minute to consider that these tourists helps YOU, as a local.  And, someday YOU will be the tourist in someone else's town.

Be kind.
Be patient.
Be respectful.
Be grateful.

BE the new image of the Jersey Shore.

And for those visiting an area that is NOT your hometown...it's the same.

Be kind.
Be patient.
Be respectful.
Be grateful.

And, let's all take a minute to show Mother Earth some respect.  Throw your trash in the garbage can, put your butt out in an ashtray, mind the local laws and traffic signs.

Have an amazing summer my friends!


Thursday, May 26, 2016

It's Not the End of the World

When life gets out of control, it's so easy to let the tough times consume your thoughts. But, does it help?

One of my children is going through a rough time.  They're dealing with a lot of stress and feel overwhelmed.  As a parent, I want to do everything I can to help.  As someone who remembers her teen years well, I want my child to know that it really is going to be okay.

Got me to thinking about perspective.  When you're a teen, there are events and upsets that feel like the end of the world.  But, someone who has lived through similar situations can easily say that it will be okay.  But for the person in the moment, it really feels worse and its hard to see beyond what's happening.

As an adult, I've been through sine really challenging times.  And I've felt like I'd never get behind the moments that held me in an emotional tornado.  But, when I put things in perspective, I began to see the future.

See, even though I was temporarily homeless, I had to be thankful because other people have been homeless for many years.

Even though I struggled to pay my car payments, I had to be thankful I had a car, as many people don't.

Even though I had a ton of bills, I had to be thankful that I want dealing with a foreclosure or bankruptcy and that I had a job.

Most of the challenges people face are not permanent.  It's not the end of the world.  There may be pain and disappointment and challenges, but if you can get some perspective on the situation, then you can also open up to new solutions.

Take one day at a time.
Be thankful for what you have.
Keep focused on what you want.
Do the best you can,
With what you have,
where you are.

It'll be okay my friend.  Today is a new day.  Make the best of it.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Learning to Move On...

Learning to move on...

It's not an easy thing to do.  Leaving behind what you know.  Who you know.  The places you know.  No one welcomes change very easily.  Especially when you don't feel that the change is of your own choosing.

When you leave a relationship, romantic or friendly, it hurts.  All that you know is not the same anymore.

When you leave a job, it's challenging.  Whether you quit or were fired, you feel insecurity and frustration.

The unknown looms and it's a hella scary thing.

Here's some advice I've learned and live by:

  • Keep your focus forward.  Not on where you are, but on where you want to go.
  • Create new habits.  That situation may have become a huge part of who you are, so it's not easy.  But, forming new habits will slowly change the "norm" for you and that's a good thing.
  • Crowd out the old with what you love to do.  If you're hurting and feel lonely, find healthy outlets to fill that need.  One that make you feel good inside and lift you up.
  • Take it one day at a time; one baby step at a time.

Like I said in a previous post... Do the best you can, with what you have, where you are.

Believe in YOU.
Love YOU.
Do right by YOU.

You're meant to shine my friend.  Bring out that inner superstar and SHINE.

This post is dedicate to AM, GM and every other woman out there dealing with shit.

Love you!!!


Thursday, May 19, 2016

Do The Best You Can...

Do The Best You Can, 

With What You Have, 

Where You Are

One of my favorite sayings, based on the quote by Theodore Roosevelt. 

When life spirals out of your control, there's only so much you can do.
I've accepted that things happen in my life that will be painful, and that I cannot control what others do.  I can only control my own reactions, behaviors, words, thoughts...

So, every day I remind myself, "Joy, do the best that you can, with what you have, where you are."  It is harder some days than others.  And once in awhile it feels IMPOSSIBLE.  But what I've also found is that if I focus on what I need to do, the goals I have for myself, it gets easier to do the best I can.

This week has been rough for me.  A lot of emotional pain and suffering, but I choose to move forward.  I get up and put my feet on the ground, just like every other day.  I get up and get going, because it's what needs to be done.  I'm no superwoman.  I'm just a woman.

For quite awhile, I held a close relationship to someone who recently destroyed it with their behavior and deception.  When you give trust and respect to another person, in any kind of relationship, and they hurt you, it's painful.  But, out of pain, can come growth.  Out of hurt, can come healing.  Out of a bad experience, can come understanding and empathy.  Out of the storm, the sunlight will shine.

As long as you know you're giving it your all...take comfort in that.
As long as you appreciate what remains...be blessed by that.
As long as you know where you are now isn't where you will stay...see hope in that.

Out of my personal situation, comes new, beautiful things.

Whatever you' may be facing, just do the best you can my friend.



Sunday, May 15, 2016

It's Just Like Fire

That's how relationships can be. Burn bright and hot after careful stoking.  But if they're aren't continually fed, the fire simmers and eventually goes out.

How to feed the fire?

Quality time.
Quality conversations.
Open communication.

And you need all of these things.  Like a fire needs oxygen and wood of different sizes.  Without one our the elements, your fire will not be as good as you desire. And, in time, will fizzle out.

Take a minute and consider what you can change or improve in your relationship, today, that will feed the fire between you two.

It's in the small things that we find big impact and huge results.

Enjoy your Sunday friends.

Love and Blessings,

Saturday, May 14, 2016

It's A War Zone

It's A War Zone

I could be talking about a LOT of things, right?

Evening rush hour...

...that's LIFE, right?

But, I'm actually referring to your mind.  What you think about.  What you believe.  What influences you.  What you see, hear, read, listen to and so on.

The biggest battle you will ever fight is in your own head. 
And, you're not alone.  We all go through it at some point.  Maybe daily.  Maybe hourly.  Maybe minute by minute.

If you don't feed your mind regularly with supportive thoughts, you may find that the outer influences make a greater impact on you.  It is a necessity to watch what influences you and ensure that the things that you allow in your mind, are productive, constructive and helpful to reach the outcomes you desire.

If not, your mind...and emotions too...will always be at war.  Some things will resonate with you, but others will cause conflict.

I want you to do this:

Go to a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for a few minutes (bathroom, closet, car...)

Set a timer (you can use your cell phone, alarm clock or kitchen timer) for 10 minutes.

Sit or stand, head up, shoulders back and take a few deep breaths.

Think about ONE thing that you've been trying to achieve, but have been struggling.

What has your biggest obstacle been with this goal?

Who has been responsible for this obstacle?

Why do you believe that?

What choices have YOU made?

What is your responsibility here?

What is ONE step YOU can take TODAY to change the course you are currently on?

NOW...do it!  Before you go to bed today, make sure you have gotten it DONE.  If it's too big to do in one day, then break it down into smaller steps that you can do daily until you've completed that step.

And, really feel the accomplishment of achieving that step.  Make sure that you keep that feeling close to your heart and surround yourself with only the people and things that align with this feeling.

I'd love to hear your feedback on this exercise!
Make sh*t happen today my friend!


PS:  If you are ready to make some changes, BUT need some coaching, click on the "Work With Joy" tab at the top of this page.  Can't wait to hear from you.

Friday, May 13, 2016

Small Actions Can Lead to HUGE Results...

Small Actions Can Lead to HUGE Results...

...but you need to make the right small actions.

If you take small steps down the street, but don't know where to go, or if you go left instead of right, you'll end up somewhere different than you had intended.

My mission is to help YOU take the small action steps that will lead you where you want to go and to do it right now.

I invite you to join my group coaching class.  It is 4 weeks that will transform your life.  Because when you make small action, focused in the RIGHT direction, nothing will ever be the same!

CLASSES START TUESDAY, Check out the details HERE

And, here is a video to inspire you to get moving!


"Nobody can be just like me, anyway."

See you in class!

Thursday, May 12, 2016

It's Coming Very Soon

Coming on Tuesday May 17, 2016...

I am opening the doors to my new group coaching class "Transform Your Life in 4 Weeks"

Once a week we will get on the phone, go through an intense lesson and then you will be given some action steps to do on your own time.

All calls will be recorded so you can listen to the replay at your convenience and to help guide you through the action steps.

DETAILS HERE: Click here

Super excited to share this with you and see you in the group!!


Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Orange is the New Black

Orange is the New Black

Let me tell you, I hadn't even heard of the series until last year.  At that point, we bought the DVDs for Season 1 & Season 2 and I just LOVED IT!  There hasn't been a DVD set for Season 3 and I'm not happy about that one bit.  LOL

One thing that always popped into my mind, when watching the show was:

How would I handle it, if for some reason, I ended up in prison?

You may know, I've always had a pretty positive outlook on life.  But, every episode, I began to doubt I'd make it a day in a place like that.  How to handle yourself, how to protect yourself, how to handle others and how to keep your mouth shut when you see shit or it happens to you.


I am grateful for the life I have and that I don't have to spend my time in that environment.  My heart goes out to the women that are locked away from their children and other loved ones.  I know that many people realize their mistakes after it's too late, and wish they could un-do the things they've done.  On the "outside" we have the luxury of making amends and making changes that will create a better future for ourselves.

We also can take for granted the liberties we have...something as simple as a hot shower and clean clothes.  Not to mention a decent meal.

Orange is the New Black is a great show.  I know it's dramatized and I've spoken with people that have enlightened me as to the realities of that environment; a situation too many people have experienced.  I enjoy it immensely but I do try to keep in the back of my mind, that real people deal with this.  Real people probably inspired the show.  Real women that made decisions and choices they can't take back.  That's gotta really mess with your head.  Your heart.  Your health.

My thoughts today are:

Do the best you can.
Follow the law.
Be careful who you surround yourself with.
Be aware of what influences you.
Get help with addiction if you need to.
Get help to make better decisions.
Be grateful for what you have.
Be loving to those close to you.
Don't take a single day for granted.

and above all...enjoy life.  It's way too precious to lose!


Wednesday, May 4, 2016

You Gotta Live in the Forward

You Gotta Live in the Forward 

From the movie I posted below, these are the things that stuck out to me.  The thoughts, the words, the phrases that SHOUTED to me.

Take 30 minutes and be in a quiet place and IMAGINE.

Do it DAILY.

You have to see the person you want to become. Who is she in 10 years? In 20 years?

Don't focus on the now or the how.

Focus forward to the woman you will become.

One day, is going to be your day. Believe it.  See it.

Have FAITH in it.

You may not see it just yet, but if you believe it, it will come.


 Every mistake, setback and challenge is an opportunity to learn and move forward.

If you lose your job, your money, your business...


You will only reach your goals and dreams if you use your imagination.


Fear is a CHOICE.  Fear exists, yes.  But, if you let it own you, that is your choice.

You can choose differently.

Your life is an occasion; RISE TO IT


This Is A Test

This Is A Test


Life is full of tests.  I think that every day, we face some kind of test.  Whether it's to see if we are committed to what we believe or to who we love or a test of our character.  Everything in this life seems to be a test.

The other day, I was stressed.  An idea came to mind and all of a sudden I was running full force after that idea.  I literally dropped everything to pursue the concept.  It made total sense.  I did the web page, the email, the graphics, etc.  I was feeling like it was the right thing for me and it would yield the results I craved.

Then...BAM.  It hit me.

A traditional business is said to take 3-5 years to become profitable.  And, many businesses fail before they hit that mark.  I did the math, figured out the start-up costs and the business plan for the next 3-5 years.  I would work about 16 hours, trekking around town to make a couple hundred dollars a day.  I started to work on the schedule and realized that at no point would I be flexible enough to see my kids.  I believe in the idea, and I think it's a needed service in the area.


The one thing I want most in this world is to be a F/T work at home mom.  And, the concept I came up with created the exact opposite scenario.  It may put money in my pocket daily, but in the long run, I'd lose time with my kids.  And, when I calculated each child's age, plus 3-5 years of me barely seeing them...I CRIED.

Those calculations meant that 3 of my 5 children would be on to college or beyond.  I'd barely get any time with them then, that's for sure.  And, the youngest two, would be in school full time, one of them would be a teen!

Nope.  I was making a grave mistake.  It literally gave me chest pains.

So, I'm considering it a test.  Yes, I chased the shiny object for a couple of days.  But, when I sat back and really thought about the end result I wanted to create, I realized that the path I had been on just a few days ago, was the RIGHT one for me.  I would be able to provide a valuable service that is needed, and at the same time own my own business, create time and financial freedom, all while being the F/T mom I desire.

If you feel that the path you are on, isn't quite right....don't beat yourself up about it.  And, don't stay on that path.  Look at what end result you crave, desire, need, want...and find the path that leads to THAT end result.  It's only a test...and it's a learning & growing experience.

Create a life you love by allowing your passion and purpose to guide you to the path of your heart.


Your life is an occasion; rise to it!

Reset Your Mindset

Reset Your Mindset

Reset Your MIndset (1)

Sometimes, it is hard to get out of a certain frame of mind.  If you are upset or worried about something, it seems to snowball and everything goes "wrong."

Times like that, I need to reset my mindset.  I have to start journaling or listening to encouraging & inspiring music.  I need to intentionally shift my emotions from upset, angry or frustration to grateful, thankful or creative.

It's not always easy to make a quick shift, so the key is to continuously surround yourself with positive energy, people, words and thoughts until the shift happens.  Read daily affirmations or a book that you enjoy.  Watch a comedy or a few videos that make you smile and make your heart feel at peace.

Do it with intention so that you can go from a negative place to a positive one.  Everyone has different "go-to" songs, books, movies; methods that will make them feel good.

Then, go back to whatever you were doing that frustrated you and see if you can't approach it from a better place.

Friday, April 22, 2016

Do What Works

Do What Works

One thing I have learned over the years is that you have to take a step back sometimes, and look at what's going on.  When you're knee deep in a situation, you don't always see everything that is going on outside of it.  But, when you take a step back, your perspective changes a bit and you can see things you've never seen before.

You have to do what works and what gets you results.  And, you have to move beyond the things that are not serving you.  Sometimes, this may be physically moving, other cases, it may be moving away from people.  If you are not seeing the results you want, then take a step back and look from a different perspective.

And, do it now.

Let's say you want to get physically fit.  Are the workouts you are doing, giving you the results you want?  If so, then continue doing them.  If not, find some variations or other exercises that do.

If you want to find the perfect person for you, are you mentally and emotionally ready for a relationship?  Are you hanging around the places and people where you could meet this person?

If you want to make more money, are you open to receiving more?  Are you doing everything you can in your current job or business to receive the income you deserve?  Are you careful with the money you already have?  Do you have a financial plan in place?

If you want success, in whatever way that translates for you, are you doing everything you possibly can to create success?  Are you mentally, physically and emotionally willing to achieve success?

Take a step back and look at what you are doing.  Do more of what works.  Release or replace what doesn't.

I'm looking forward to sharing more content with you every single day.

I'm looking forward to creating a kick-ass program that will help you transform your life, one step at a time.

I believe in myself.
I believe in you.
I'm rooting for you,
hope you're rooting for me too.


PS:  Have you joined the community yet? 

Thursday, April 21, 2016

Stay in Your Own Lane

Stay in Your Own Lane

I heard this phrase today and it got me to thinking...

So often, we let what other people think and what they say, deter us from doing the things we truly want to do.  We also worry about what other people may think, even though we don't necessarily have proof that those people are even thinking about us.

Where does that come from?

It's not from "them", it from inside of your head.  It's what you think about yourself that allows those fears and insecurities to blossom.  Somewhere, somehow, the fear of being rejection or not good enough, set roots in your mind and in your heart & soul.  And, as I've said before, what you think about, you bring about.

So, when that teacher said your work wasn't very good.  
When that friend chose her boyfriend over you.  
When that manager promoted the other woman in your department.  
When that family member told you that you've put on weight. Etc, etc, etc.

You bought into it.  
You absorbed it and you allowed it to take hold in your mind.  
Like a weed, those words grew quickly and infected your whole being.

And, then you started to beat up on yourself, too.

After all, "they" must be right.  "They" have this item and that spouse and those clothes and blah, blah, blah.

But "they" do NOT live your life.  "They" probably don't even think about what you've got going on nearly as much as you worry about "them."  Because humans are selfish, by nature.  And we think that everything is about us.  It's true...and that's the human nature.

Guess what...by giving time and emotion to "them" or what you believe "they" may be thinking, you feed that nasty weed inside of you.


You have an inner beauty that requires nurturing, love and sunshine.  
You are a beautiful woman.
You have a purpose and we need you.
You have a light inside of you and we need it to shine.

I'm just like you.  
Most of my life I've struggled with being "good enough."
And, I have doubts and fears, just like you.
I have struggles and challenges, just like you.

The thing is, you need to focus on YOU.
You need to stop worrying about who thinks what, what they're doing and so on.
You need to stay in your own lane.

Don't compare yourself to anyone; there is no one like you.
Don't listen to negative people; they don't walk in your shoes.
Don't let others narrow-mindedness affect you; you've got a purpose to fulfill.
Don't concern yourself with what other people own; you are blessed and highly favored.

Spend a little time today with YOU and have a chat.  

  • How do you feel?  
  • What do you need?  
  • What are some things you want to achieve during your transformation?  
  • What action steps can you take today, to get closer to your goals?  
  • What challenges are you coming against? 
  • How can you resolve these challenges?  
  • How will it feel to resolve these challenges?

And, above all else, take time for gratitude.  I talk about that HERE

I believe in myself.
I believe in you.
I'm rooting for you,
hope you're rooting for me too.


PS:  I'd love to have you join my new Fab Fit Fine Facebook support group.  A safe place to get encouragement for women, like you, who want to feel fabulous, fit and fine...it's a state of mind, hon.